Marriage is beautiful (part 2.)

This is a continuation of my previous post on marriage is beautiful. I have so much to talk about marriage that I may not be able to say it all. Based on my experience, I think I have come a long way and to help other people who are planning to get married and start a home.

The success of any marriage is based on the couple. I may give you some good hints and advice for your marriage but it may not suit you because your spouse is different from mine. There is no exact formula for a successful marriage. But there are some common things that work for virtually all marriages. Before a person decides to get married, he or she must be matured in so many aspects. He or she must be matured physically, emotionally, financially(not in all cases) and spiritually.

A person should get married to his or her friend. Friend I mean here is someone you can relate with well. Someone whom you are free with. Someone whom you can be anything good and will always support you, encourage you, be there for you. Someone who can catch you when you fall, someone who can provide a shoulder for you cry on, someone who can bring out the best in you and so on. That kind of person is someone you can spend the rest of your life with, without regret.

Someone may say " all these qualities...Abeg there is no perfect partner... It's impossible jare..., A partner like this cannot be found especially not in Nigeria... So many comments. Of course no one is perfect. But people tend to forget that patience, real love, God, understanding, trust and tolerance can make one have a spouse with all these attributes and more.

When people begin to change their mindsets and work on themselves as individuals, they can bring out the best in their spouses. A person can change their partner either positively or negatively. A person can make or Mar their marriage. It is up to the individual.

Marriage is beautiful, so beautiful that it gives a special kind of fulfilment for spouses who are really dedicated to each other. Marriage is so blissful. Marriage is so joyful for those that understand. Many people do not value their spouses. They take them for granted. They keep wrecking their spouses until they get divorced and then they start to regret it all. They forget that whom they think is trash can be another person's treasure.

Marriage is a melting pot of different flavors of personalities to merge into one beautiful personality that stands out, that shows strength, resilience. A formidable personality that can withstand any pressure and can be a standard that people look up to.

I love being married. I am so grateful for the opportunity to have the experience. I couldn't ask for more. It is worth it. I tell you, it is.